This blog post explores attachment theory and how it can affect our romantic relationships. Originating with John Bowlby in the 1950s, attachment theory posits that infants form bonds with their early caregivers that can serve as a template for future relationships. Mary Ainsworth furthered this theory with her "strange situation" study, which identified three different types of attachment in children: anxious-avoidant, secure, and anxious-resistant. The article then applies attachment theory to adult relationships, discussing the three main attachment styles (secure, anxious, and avoidant) and how they can affect our behavior in romantic partnerships. The post emphasizes that attachment style is not fixed and can be changed, and provides tips for creating a more secure attachment in our relationships, such as discussing attachment openly with our partners, investing in the foundation of our relationships, practicing empathy, and actively asking to have our needs met. Overall, the article emphasizes that understanding attachment theory can be rewarding and validating, and can help us overcome old patterns of behavior and create healthier relationships.